Only Person to Set Limits to Your Growth

Another interesting story,

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written:

‘Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym’.

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought: ‘Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!’.

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself.

There was also a sign next to the mirror that said:
‘There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU. You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.
Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

‘The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself’

Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don’t be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses: be a winner, build yourself and your reality.

It’s the way you face Life that makes the difference.

Think Before You Speak

Here is another interesting story,

The train has started moving. It is packed with people of all ages, mostly with the working men and women and young college guys and gals. Near the window, seated a old man with his 30 year old son. As the train moves by, the son is overwhelmed with joy as he was thrilled with the scenery outside. “See dad, the scenery of green trees moving away is very beautiful”

This behavior from a thirty year old son made the other people feel strange about him. Every one started murmuring something or other about this son.”This guy seems to be a krack..” newly married Anup whispered to his wife.

Suddenly it started raining… Rain drops fell on the travelers through the opened window. The Thirty year old son , filled with joy “see dad, how beautiful the rain is ..”

Anup’s wife got irritated with the rain drops spoiling her new suit. Anup ,” can’t you see its raining, you old man, if ur son is not feeling well get him soon to a mental asylum..and dont disturb public henceforth”

The old man hesitated first and then in a low tone replied ” we are on the way back from hospital, my son got discharged today morning , he was a blind by birth, last week only he got his vision, these rain and nature are new to his eyes.. Please forgive us for the inconvenience caused…”

The things we see may be right from our perspective until we know the truth. But when we know the truth our reaction to that will hurt even us. So try to understand the problem better before taking a harsh action.

Never Give Up!

It’s been a while since I posted my last post. Lot of things has happened since then. Hopefully things will settle soon and here is a story that I came across recently.

Here goes the story,

“One day I decided to quit…I quit my job, my relationship,my spirituality… I wanted to quit my life.

I went to the woods to have one last talk with GOD.

“GOD”, I said. “Can you give me one good
reason not to quit?”

His answer surprised me… “Look around”, He said.

“Do you see the fern and the bamboo?”

“Yes”, I replied.

“When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took
very good care of them. I gave them light.
I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor.
Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more
vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo.”

He said. “In year three there was still nothing from
the bamboo seed. But I would not quit.

In year four, again, there was nothing from the
bamboo seed. I would not quit.” He said.

“Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged
from the earth. Compared to the fern it was
seemingly small and insignificant………

But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over
100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots.
Those roots made it strong and gave it what
it needed to survive.

I would not give any of my creations a challenge
it could not handle.”

He said to me. “Did you know, my child, that all this time
you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?”

“I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you.”

“Don’t compare yourself to others.”

He said. “The bamboo had a different purpose
than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful.”

“Your time will come”, GOD said to me. “You will rise high”

“How high should I rise?” I asked.

“How high will the bamboo rise?” He asked in return.

“As high as it can?” I questioned.

“Yes.” He said, “Give me glory by rising as high as you can.”

I left the forest and brought back this story”

Very inspiring story.


UG Meeting on LINQ & Service Broker in SQL Server 2005

BDOTNET is conducting seminars on LINQ and Service Broker in SQL Server 2005 this Saturday. LINQ will be the interesting part. Here are the details,

UG Meeting on 17th November 2007 at 4PM

Session 1: Some cool stuff on C# 3.0 and LINQ
Time: 4PM to 5PM
Speaker: Wriju Ghosh, Microsoft India, Bangalore

Session 2: Service Broker in SQL Server 2005
Time: 5PM to 6PM
Speaker: Amit Bansal (Peopleware India, eDominer Systems P Ltd)
Visit to know more about Amit

DateTime: 17th Nov 2007 Saturday 4PM

Entry: No procedures/No Fee, Simply Walk-in!

ThoughtWorks, 6th floor, Diamond District, Airport Road, Bangalore.
Landmark: Near Domlur flyover / oppo TGIF & Bombay post


The Big Rocks of Time

recently came across this interesting story about “Big Rocks” by Stephen Covey when reading about Time Management. Here it goes,

“One day an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers he said, “Okay, it’s time for a quiz.” Reaching under the table, he pulled out a wide-mouthed gallon jar and set it on the table next to a platter covered with fist-sized rocks. “How many of these rocks do you think we can get in the jar?” he asked the audience.

After the students made their guesses, the seminar leader said, “Okay, let’s find out.” He put one rock in the jar, then another, then another–until no more rocks would fit. Then he asked, “Is the jar full?”

Everybody could see that not one more of the rocks would fit, so they said, “Yes.”

“Not so fast,” he cautioned. From under the table he lifted out a bucket of gravel, dumped it in the jar, and shook it. The gravel slid into all the little spaces left by the big rocks. Grinning, the seminar leader asked once more, “Is the jar full?”

A little wiser by now, the students responded, “Probably not.”

“Good,” the teacher said. Then he reached under the table to bring up a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar. While the students watched, the sand filled in the little spaces left by the rocks and gravel. Once more he looked at the class and said, “Now, is the jar full?”

“No,” everyone shouted back.

“Good!” said the seminar leader, who then grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it into the jar. He got something like a quart of water into that jar before he said, “Ladies and gentlemen, the jar is now full. Can anybody tell me the lesson you can learn from this? What’s my point?”

An eager participant spoke up: “Well, there are gaps in your schedule. And if you really work at it, you can always fit more into your life.”

“No,” the leader said. “That’s not the point. The point is this: if I hadn’t put those big rocks in first, I would never have gotten them in.”

In both our business and personal lives, we have big rocks, gravel, sand and water. The natural tendency seems to favor the latter three elements, leaving little space for the big rocks. In an effort to respond to the urgent, the important is sometimes set aside.

What are the ‘big rocks’ in your life? A large project? Spending time with your family? Your health? Your finances? Your faith? Your personal development? Your dreams?

Make a list of your big rocks. Then make a plan to ensure that your big rocks are put first. Block out the time in your schedule for those activities. Amazingly, the other stuff still gets done.

Periodically reflect on how you’re doing. Are you putting your big rocks first, or does gravel and sand and water dominate your life? If the big rocks aren’t getting in, what will have to happen so that they do?

When you’re planning your month, your week or your day, and even when you’re making specific decisions during the day, refer back to your list of big rocks. Then, put those in your jar first.”

The idea here is that when we spend time concentrating on big rocks of your life(the important ones) like one’s dream, personal development, being part of a project\team, family etc…, the other things(urgent ones) like daily stuff that we do(work) & everything else gets done automatically and we have to make sure that the big rocks gets into the schedule with the urgent ones whenever we plan for a month or a week.


VS 2008 Beta 2 Installed!

After a looong 12 hours wait, I finished downloading VS 2008 Beta 2 Professional Edition and installed it in about 2 hours in Vista PC finally! :). I have a long list of things that I need to try in VS 2008 now(when I get some time) that I have learnt in the past like,


Multi Targeting

CSS & Master Pages

Automatic Properties, Extension Methods, Lambda Expressions, Anonymous Types etc…

Silverlight & ASP.Net AJAX.

Will be starting with LINQ soon:), hopefully I will finish all these stuff soon.


Yahoo Performance Rules & YSlow

It’s been a while since I posted my last blog post on VS 2008, have been busy with the new project, trying to catchup on things. Yahoo have given a list of rules that could be followed to increase the performance of web applications, here are they

In particular I found these rules interesting,

1: Minimize HTTP Requests

3: Add an Expires Header

4: Gzip Components(Not sure how to implement this, finding more info on this)

5: Put CSS at the Top

6: Move Scripts to the Bottom

7: Avoid CSS Expressions

8: Make JavaScript and CSS External
10: Minify JavaScript(For minifying JS, JSMin could be used with JSLint)

12: Remove Duplicate Scripts

Yahoo has released YSlow, their web performance tool that measures web performance based on the above rules. YSlow is integrated with Firebug, my favorite web development helper for firefox.


Microsoft to Launch Visual Studio 2008 on Feb 27, 2008 in Los Angeles

Microsoft has announced the launch of much awaited Visual Studio 2008 along with SQL Server 2008 and Windows Server 2008 coming Feb 27, 2008 in Los Angeles. Scott has mentioned in his blog that Visual studio 2008 will be available for MSDN Subscribers to download and people to buy a few weeks or months before the launch which I am hoping to be by this December or Jan 2008.

Visual Studio 2008 Beta 2(final Beta) is expected to release in few weeks this summer(Early August). Visual Studio 2008 is coming with loads of features like improved JavaScript intellisense, LINQ capabilities, Multi-Targeting Support, Improved Performance when switching between HTML & Design views(think they have completely replaced the ASP.NET/HTML Designer in VS2008 with about 3.5 years of coding), CSS improvements, SilverLight Support(haven’t seen much about this so far) and lots of other features as well.

For more details about the Microsoft’s “2008 Global Launch Wave” visit

Windows Server 2008, Visual Studio 2008 and Microsoft SQL Server 2008 will launch Feb. 27, 2008

Launch Wave of Microsoft Products Coming in 2008


Ellie Powers on Scrum

Here is nice video by Ellie Powers, Program Manager with the Hotmail team on SCRUM and how she uses it in her team for Project Management.


How to interview

Andrew has posted few rules on how to interview at

How to interview, 101

Thought will add few more thoughts to it, I have always seen candidates attending interviews very nervous most of the time so it’s very important that we get them to their comfortable level and always spend some time extra to make sure we pick the right ones.